Paper Tales

Gone, But Not Forgotten

Weddings are no time for tears—well, not sad ones. So how do you pay homage to those who have passed without putting a damper on your day?

By Donna Garlough

TOAST THEM.  Keep the mood light by incorporating a small speech into your rehearsal dinner. Just a simple “To all of those family and friends who couldn’t be with us tonight” should suffice.

CARRY THEM WITH YOU.  If you have a piece of jewelry like a pendant or a pin that belonged to the relative, tuck it into your bouquet. (Just remember to take it out before tossing the flowers to the crowd.)

MAKE A RITE OF IT.  Some couples set up small “memory tables” somewhere at the reception venue where old photos and candles can be placed.

PUT IT IN WRITING.  It’s common in some cultures to say something about the departed during the ceremony. But if uttering their names is unthinkable, write them into your program. A little note will get the message across.

HAVE A GOOD TIME.  If they were there, they’d want you on the dance floor instead of moping. Acknowledge their absence, then party in their honor!